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It"s important to welcome probing of yourself because no one can see themselves objectively. When you are being probed, it"s essential to stay calm. Your emotional "lower-level you" will probably react to probing with something like, "You"re a jerk because you"re against me and making me feel bad," whereas your thoughtful "higher-level you" should be thinking, "It"s wonderful that we can be completely honest like this and have such a thoughtful exchange to help assure that I"m doing things well." Listen to your higher-level you and don"t lose sight of how difficult it can be for the person doing the probing. Besides helping to make the organization and your relationship with the person who is probing you go well, working yourself through this difficult probing will build your character and your equanimity.